What Helps in the Healing Process?
“From where does my help come?” — Psalm 121:1
Healing from trauma is rarely straightforward. It doesn’t move in a straight line, and it certainly doesn’t follow a timeline. There are setbacks and moments of progress, days of deep discouragement and glimpses of hope. And perhaps most surprising of all, the help we long for—when it does come—often doesn’t arrive in the form we imagined.
The chapter Helps from Just Before Dawn offers a profoundly honest and spiritually grounded look at what it means to receive help on the long road of healing. It gently explores both the inner cries of those who feel like they’re barely holding on and the often unseen ways God provides strength, support, and comfort along the way.
Whether that help comes through wise counsel, practical tools, or the quiet mercy of God’s presence in our weakness, this chapter invites us to consider that healing is not just about survival—it’s about transformation. And it reminds us that true help doesn’t always look heroic. Sometimes it looks like rest. Sometimes it looks like breathing. And sometimes it looks like being carried by the faith of others when we’ve run out of our own.
“From where does my help come?” (Psalm 121:1)
This chapter wrestles with that question—not just with words, but with lived experience, spiritual depth, and the compassionate heart of God.
Redefining Help: When Holding On Feels Impossible
One of the most poignant reflections in the chapter comes from a woman named N.H., who shares the internal battle that many trauma survivors face:
“I’m so weary, Lord. I just can’t do it… Wouldn’t they all be better off without me?”
This excerpt reflects the mental and emotional fatigue that often accompanies trauma. It also highlights a critical truth: many survivors feel pressure to keep performing, keep parenting, keep smiling—even when they’re running on empty.
Over time, N.H. realized a powerful shift was needed. Her sense of value couldn’t be based on what she could do, produce, or prove. Instead, healing began when she measured her life through God’s unchanging love—not human expectations.
What Scripture Shows Us
The chapter draws a powerful parallel to the prophet Elijah in 1 Kings 19. After a series of intense spiritual victories, Elijah became overwhelmed and fled, exhausted and afraid:
“I have had enough, Lord… Take my life.”
Rather than rebuke him, God responded with compassion. An angel touched him and provided food and rest. This moment reflects a biblical principle that is often overlooked: healing sometimes begins with basic care. Sleep. Food. Safety. Stillness.
God’s presence didn’t arrive in a storm, earthquake, or fire—but in a gentle whisper. This reminder is vital: help does not always arrive loudly or dramatically. Sometimes, it’s quiet. It’s consistent. And it’s enough.
Depression, Despair, and the Need for Safe Community
One of the most powerful aspects of the Helps chapter is its refusal to gloss over the darker realities of trauma recovery. Depression, despair, and suicidal thoughts are not uncommon—they are, in fact, often part of the terrain that survivors walk through. And this chapter meets that reality with honesty and grace.
In a raw and vulnerable entry titled Into the Abyss – Diary of Depression, a survivor named Robyn writes her way through the storm of a depressive episode. Her words are gut-wrenching in their clarity—capturing the hopelessness, numbness, and spiritual confusion that so often accompany deep depression. Her honesty dismantles the myth that strong faith means we are immune to despair.
What this chapter makes clear is that depression is not a character flaw or a lack of faith. It is a very real response to very real pain. Suicidal thoughts are not evidence of failure—they’re evidence of someone who’s overwhelmed and longing for relief. And in those moments, what makes the difference isn’t platitudes or pressure to “just believe more.” It’s presence. It’s compassion. It’s knowing that someone will sit in the dark with you until you can see the light again.
“Sometimes the only answer is to stop the struggle by allowing others to carry us to Jesus when we cannot get there ourselves.”
This image—of the paralyzed man being lowered through the roof by his friends—is more than a metaphor. It’s a call to action for the Church. It’s a reminder that healing is not meant to be done in isolation. We were created for community, for interdependence, for bearing one another’s burdens when the weight becomes too much.
Safe community—friends who don’t judge, who don’t try to fix, who don’t walk away when things get heavy—isn’t just a luxury. It’s a lifeline. For many, it’s the very way God chooses to show up.
The message is clear: no one should have to endure suffering alone. Healing requires safe spaces, honest conversations, and relationships rooted in empathy, patience, and the love of Christ.
Practical Tools That Make a Difference
These tools are not presented as quick fixes. They’re offered as sacred practices—anchored in truth, strengthened by Scripture, and made possible through the presence of the Holy Spirit. Whether you're a survivor or someone walking alongside one, these are invitations to participate in the healing process with humility, hope, and a deeper reliance on God.
Understand the Healing Process
Healing is not a straight path. Understanding conditions like PTSD, dissociation, and trauma helps remove shame and replace it with informed grace. Resources like The Wounded Heart and the Sidran Foundation can help illuminate the path forward.Find a Safe, Informed Counselor
Seek someone who is trauma-informed and spiritually grounded. The right support doesn’t fix you—it walks with you.Set Boundaries That Reflect God’s Design
Boundaries protect what is holy. They help preserve emotional, spiritual, and relational safety, honoring your God-given dignity.Reclaim the Word ‘No’
Saying no to guilt, to pressure, to unsafe dynamics is part of saying yes to healing.Fight the Victim Mindset by Naming It
Lie: “I’m too broken.”
Truth: “In Christ, I am a new creation.” (2 Cor. 5:17)Accept Support
Let others carry you when you can’t walk. Receiving help is not weakness—it’s wisdom.Refuse to Isolate
Isolation may feel safe, but healing happens in connection.Honor the Body as a Temple
Caring for your physical health is a spiritual act of worship.Play. Laugh. Rest. Reclaim Joy.
Joy is not the absence of sorrow—it’s the presence of God in the midst of it.Engage in Spiritual Restoration
Rediscover who God really is. Healing is not complete without spiritual renewal.
Final Thoughts
The chapter reminds us again and again: Healing is possible. But it’s not something we do alone, and it’s not something we perform to earn God’s love. It’s something we walk through, slowly and tenderly, with the God who has already called us His own.
These tools are not magic formulas. But they are sacred steps. Each one—whether it’s setting a boundary or saying a prayer, calling a friend or finally taking a nap—can become an act of trust.
They are daily decisions to believe the truth:
You are not beyond repair.
You are not walking alone.
And the Lord—your Helper, your Healer—is already with you on the journey.
Key Biblical Principles on Help and Healing
“From the end of the earth I will cry to You, when my heart is overwhelmed; lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” — Psalm 61:2
“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.” — Isaiah 40:29
“The joy of the Lord is your strength.” — Nehemiah 8:10
These verses are not simply comforting—they’re anchoring truths that reorient hearts and minds to God’s ability to restore what trauma has damaged.
A Closing Prayer
Lord, For the one who feels exhausted, bring rest.
For the one who feels stuck, bring freedom.
For the one overwhelmed by depression or fear, bring light.
You are the God who walks beside the brokenhearted.
You are the Rock that is higher when our hearts are overwhelmed.
Help us breathe again. Hope again. Trust again.
Remind us that healing doesn’t mean doing everything right—
It means returning to You again and again.
You are our ever-present Help.
And You will carry us through.
Amen.
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