Because: Understanding the Struggles Beneath the Surface
Why Trauma Survivors Struggle — And Why That Matters
The chapter titled "Because" from Just Before Dawn is a raw and reflective exploration of how trauma shapes the way a person thinks, feels, and behaves. It gives language to the often-invisible reasons behind the fears, defense mechanisms, and internal battles survivors carry.
This isn’t about offering easy answers. It’s about understanding what so many survivors wish others could see: the "why" behind their silence, their struggles, their reactions. The chapter is filled with these "because" statements that reveal the logic behind what may seem like irrational fear or resistance.
"Because I’ve been hurt, I’m afraid of more pain. Because I’ve been betrayed, I’m afraid to trust people. Because I’ve been shamed, I’m afraid to be seen."
Each of these lines speaks volumes. They reflect the invisible scars that affect how trauma survivors see themselves, others, and even God.
When Safety Was Never Safe
For many survivors, especially those harmed by someone close, safety has never been a guarantee. The chapter reminds us:
"Facing the truth about our abuse is painful and oftentimes gut-wrenching... finding one’s own parents guilty of betrayal is a source of soul-scarring pain and grief."
That betrayal plants seeds of distrust. It doesn’t just go away with time. It forms patterns of hyper-vigilance, avoidance, and emotional withdrawal.
The Deep Ache of Shame
Toxic shame is one of trauma’s cruelest byproducts. Survivors often internalize the lie that they are defective because of what happened to them. The book quotes author Dan Allender:
"Much of the shame we experience is not due to the exposure of our sin, but the fear of how we will be perceived as sinful by others."
The effects? Passivity, isolation, anxiety, fear of decision-making, and self-hate.
"Because of my past, I feel ruined and dirty, worthless and disqualified."
Understanding shame is key to healing. But more importantly, survivors need to know that shame is not from God. It is a tactic of the enemy to keep people silent and stuck.
The Trust Deficit
Why is it so hard to trust after trauma? Because trust was betrayed repeatedly. Trust, the chapter says, isn’t automatic. It has to be earned. Even Jesus was discerning about who He trusted.
"Jesus didn’t have the same level of trust or interaction in every relationship. Neither should we."
Rebuilding trust starts with God. Scripture says:
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding." (Proverbs 3:5)
That’s not a command rooted in shame, but an invitation into healing.
The "Because" That Changes Everything
So what is the answer to all the fear, shame, betrayal, and distrust? The chapter leads us to one ultimate truth:
"Because Thy loving kindness is better than life, my lips shall praise Thee." (Psalm 63:3)
In a world where trauma has rewritten the rules of safety and love, this verse becomes an anchor. God’s love is steadfast, healing, and real. And when survivors choose to trust in His character, not the pain of their past, healing begins.
God’s Names Are His Promises
The chapter closes with a powerful reminder of who God is:
Jehovah Shammah — Ever Present
Jehovah Rophe — Our Healer
Jehovah Shalom — Our Peace
Jehovah Jireh — Our Provider
Jehovah Rohi — Our Shepherd
And more. These names aren't just titles; they're promises. They're the reason survivors can hope again.
"Because He has said, 'I will never leave thee nor forsake thee' we can boldly say, 'The Lord is my helper!'" (Hebrews 13:6)
There is a reason for hope. Because God is good, and His lovingkindness is better than life itself.
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